Sexuality: The ultimate gift

pettyfog · May 4, 2009

Couples save first kiss for wedding day

"I wasn't sure what to do," said Kruger, who is model-beautiful. "I thought I would mess up."

But after that initial smooch — which was met with spirited applause and cheers — Kruger quickly recovered. "It was so natural that I went back for another," she said.

In a culture where casual sex is the norm, some Tennesseans have taken the purity pledge to a whole new level, through a practice that some teens refer to as the "Virgin Lips Movement."

Religious leaders say these examples of super-abstinence deserve admiration, not derision. Especially in a time when the only social taboo seems to be violating the "third-date rule." (For those unfamiliar with it, that means waiting until the third date to have sex).

"Even among Christians this is rare. All of those success stories need to be known," said Alec Cort, Tulip Grove Baptist Church's minister to students. "They should be shouted from the mountaintops. It's an extremely difficult thing to do, and it should be celebrated."
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Good for them!!!!! There SHOULD be celebration of this.

It seems the couple were not under some stereotypical puritanical parental influence but decided early on not to join the crowd based on 'if it feels good, do it' peer pressure.

However, I would caution on anyone, including devout parents, putting too much emphasis on this.. or even on premarital sex.

In my age group.. lo many decades ago.. I had a friend who married a girl who might have even had the same view on kiss chastity. This guy was -other than physical looks- everything a parent would want in a son-in-law. He had almost no character flaws and everyone liked him. He 'suffered' from his respect for women, though. He vowed he would wait for the right girl.. who was waiting for the right guy. And the girl he married claimed to love him for his inner beauty.

But within 18 months they were divorced. Evidently -and I was a firsthand witness, though I didnt squeal- she liked 'marital bliss' so much she couldnt help wondering what it might be like with someone who had more worldly experience, and was great looking in the bargain.

So.. while you'll never find me making fun of those who decide to wait, even for that first kiss, I wont endorse any program that places the teen under too much pressure in that regard. as one of the quotees in that article says:

.. teens should be judged on values such as intellect, courage and integrity, not their sexuality. "The idea that's communicated {by emphasis on chastity} is that if you have sex you're used goods,"
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The idea, of course, is that sexuality should in no way be an all-important criteria. Whether you're okay with it.. or an abstention proponent.

Jensers · May 4, 2009

Hmmmmm.... Well - I am a teacher, and I can see how much the physical can cause some serious issues for a youth.

On the flip side, intimacy is paramount in a loving relationship - and the reality is that you need some frame of reference. I am no saying that sex is necessary - but I would think that some intimacy beyond holding hands is important.

It is interesting because being in Lust with someone can happen because there is only a physical connection, but it also seems that can be the case when there is no intimate outlet.

Either extreme does not seem like a good idea.

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